As I write this, it is the end of March 2020. Chances are you are a couple who had to cancel your wedding, or a wedding vendor who had to cancel or postpone all of your planned events for this spring, and potentially even for summer. Odds are that you’re feeling confused, fearful, frustrated and sad.
My wish to you and to all of us, is to find, together, the gift that lies within this situation. When things get tough, I often think: “show me the gift within this situation”. Unfortunately, I don’t know who to credit this line to, but it has helped me before in moments of darkness.
No matter what the actual situation is, and no matter how hard or painful, I believe that we can find the gift that comes with it. Please know that I don’t mean to downplay or deny the gravity of the problem in matter, neither do I have an “everything will be alright” attitude. I believe that not everything will be alright, and that there already is and there will be more loss than we’re prepared for. But I also believe we can find the gift that the situation is trying to give us.
For me, it is showing up in this particular way. I already went through the denial of things, switching into distraction mode by watching Netflix and sitting on the couch all day. However, I soon realized that in order for me to really grow and show up for the people I serve, I need to stay present, suffer the pain and accept uncertainty.
I know more than ever that my work is way beyond getting logistics right, beyond the beauty, and beyond achieving the perfect wedding picture. My job is to walk my clients through creating a wedding celebration that is, above all, meaningful, memorable and unique to them.
My intention is to sort problems as they come, and they always do, with compassion, empathy and what sometimes feels like a swirl of a magic wand.
Today, more than ever before, I believe that couples and families will intentionally create a wedding for themselves, their loved ones and for the joy of their souls.
I continue to be grateful for being part of an industry that celebrates love, connection and joy. I work with and for people that I respect, admire and love. This is the ultimate gift. I know that pain is a doorway to growth, and my invitation is to welcome it.
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